In becoming intimate with your spouse, there must always be an effort to keep things exciting. This doesn't mean being sexually adventurous at all times. It often .
Despite what the old “base system” (first base, second base) might tell you, I'm of the stern belief that oral sex is more intimate than penetrative.
Oral sex occurs when the two people involved say it does. That might mean shortly after they meet. It might mean while they're dating. It might mean after.